Ever since I can remember, I've always been the girl next door, the cool chick, the best friend type. You know, one of the guys.
It all started in kindergarten. My first friend, ever, was a boy. He lived right next door. We did everything together. We played Barbie's, we played with baby dolls, we played house and had sleepovers, we played video games, and we played in the park everyday after school. No, he didn't turn out to be gay. And no, we never got married. But ever since that friendship, I've just always had that "Best guy friend" in my life.
And up until now, I still do. To be quite honest, most of my friends are guys. I just don't get along with females that well. Yes, my best friend in the entire world is actually a female. And yes, I do have a close knit group of girlfriends. Like, three, to be exact. But my male friends strongly outweigh my female friends.
And I don't know what my problem is, but apparently I give off that "Friend" vibe and nothing more. No matter where I go or what I'm doing, I just always end up "One of the guys." Back when I was starting my career as just an intern at ABC, I was the only girl. And then when I went on to do other TV production work, I still remained the only girl. Even in a staff filled with eighty percent females, I somehow wound up on the team with all men. Mostly gay men. But it doesn't matter, they're still men. At family gatherings, I always end up hanging out with my dad, my uncles and my guy cousins. And every Thursday and Friday is wing night with the guys... and me.
And I can't even tell you how many times I'll meet new guys, things would be going great, and then they would suddenly say "I can't wait to introduce you to my girlfriend, she's going to love you!" Well, you know what, that's just great!
So in the end, guess what, I have enough friends already. I don't need any more!
6 comments:
WOW! You took the words right out of my mouth. My online dating column this week is about being "the friend"....so frustrating, isn't it?
Ohhh boy do I feel your frustration with that. One time I had a very in depth conversation about this with one of my guy friends who exclaimed that I "might as well have balls."
Thanks, buddy.
For the record, being "the friend" works both ways. Being the "boy next door" is just as bad as being "the girl next door." (Well, unless you're on Dawson's Creek or something.)
Oh, I'm sure it is! It may be even worse!
ha ha u played barbie;s w/ Brian
Ohh I totally understand this post.
I'm 18 and as far as I can remember I've always been the "best friend" and "one of the guys" too!
My guy friends are more than the girl friends, thats true and it has been like that since I can remember. I always end up to be that one with who they talk about and ask advice to get a girl!
It's so frustating!
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