... is what everybody says when you're dating somebody. There are always so many rules to follow and so many games to play. But guess what, everybody plays them whether you're like it or not. And there are always so many things we have to worry about.
Don't be a chaser
Wait until the guy calls you
I just texted him, so next time he should text me
Why isn't he calling???
Etc.
Enough is enough!
You have to put yourself out there and... dare I say it... try! If you don't try at your relationship, then how is it ever going to get anywhere? If you sit around on your ass all day thinking "Is he going to call?" then most probably, he's not going to call. It takes two people to make things work. Why don't YOU call!
For the longest time I couldn't help but wonder, why am I always single? Well, I'll tell you why. It's because I didn't try. I never tried to strike up a conversation with a cute guy standing at the bar. I never tried to make plans with the guy I was currently dating. And I never called guys. I always let them call me. I just sat back and just waited for things to happen. And surprise, surprise, nothing ever did.
You don't see people telling Olympic gold medalists "Hey, don't try so hard." So why can't we?
You go and put yourself out there. Let your guy know that you're interested. What's the worst that could happen?
9 comments:
I hate the social "games." UGH. I agree, enough IS enough.
The only "rule" I follow is "Don't show off all of your 'crazy' at once" Hahaha!
I kid, I don't even follow that rule. Fail.
Agreed! Step up to the plate and take a swing. BTW @ Lovelila went out with a girl the other night who showed all of her crazy at once, it was not pretty.
I agree! I'm sure the guys out there would like a break from all the pressure to make all the moves, too.
Yay! You finally said it! I couldn't agree more. Hate games, and there is no point. That pic reminds me of how Robin "Mosbyed" Barney. Haha! It's like saying I love you on a first date.
Haha! Well... no one should say "I love you" on the first date. But you get the drift ;)
Some people confusing "trying hard" with "being someone that your not". It's okay to try, just don't try so hard you become the person that your not. That seems to have worked for me :) Dumb dating rules, always so darn complicated!
From a guy's perspective I agree 100% with Jeney. Despite what our grandparents think it's OKAY for a girl to call a guy. And like Jeney said, we do welcome the initial effort as a nice break.
Most women want an assertive guy that will take the lead, but I think everyone has that initial nervousness, when a woman makes an effort it often gives the guy the confidence he needs to accelerate it from there.
I agree very much that you have to put yourself out there and make an effort to understand and play the crazy game that is dating.
That being said, I feel like there's also something to the idea that there comes a point where relationships shouldn't be so hard. If you are ALWAYS trying and NOTHING comes naturally, perhaps it just isn't a good fit.
I find it very flattering when a girl pursues me, of course not in a crazy stalker way, but you know what I mean. Sure I’m all for the old fashion way of being the one that chases the girl and I don’t have a problem with that. But sometimes it’s just really refreshing to have it the other way around. Afterall, relationships are a two-way street so why don’t people play it both ways?
And there is nothing wrong with vulnerability. Putting yourself out there and saying..."hey, I like you." The worst they can say is "fuck off" in return. You can handle that, right? ;)
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