For the first time in my life I wasn't worried about boys. I came to Hollyweird for me. And having any sort of relationship of any kind was the last thing on the agenda.
So, of course, only a couple of weeks after moving out here, I met a boy. We met at a bar and ended up chatting away for the entire night. But before I was about to leave, I did something I almost always never do. I asked him for his phone number. I'm in a new city, so why not try something new. What's the worst that could happen?
At the time, I didn't think anything would even come about of the situation. Why would it? I'm a jaded New Yorker and when it comes to relationships, they usually tend to end in some kind of disastrous situation.
But then, a strange turn of events took place - the guy called and we had a date! First it was a lunch date. Then, a dinner date. A movie date. And pretty soon after that, I guess you could say we were dating. Kind of. Sort of? It was one of those situations where you really didn't know what was going on, but you sure did spend a lot of time together. At least for the entire summer.
A couple of months later, I realized that I didn't even know this guy at all. We never, ever got into serious conversations. There was never any witty date banter. And whenever I asked him questions about himself, he never, ever asked well what about you? He never seemed interested in anything that I was doing. Or anything about me, for that matter.
But yet whenever he hung out with my girlfriends and I, or just them for that matter (Yeah. We'll get into that in another post), he seemed to have plenty to talk about. I couldn't help but wonder, is it me - am I not entertaining enough? What's happened to that smart, spunky, funny girl from New York. Has la la land gotten to me already?
No, it hasn't. I just finally realized something. Maybe he's just not that into me. Why haven't I ever noticed it before!?
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I guess, Jen..., but maybe you're not that into him, either, and he's reading it, possibly. Could be LA-style, too, where stuff is only skin deep unless there's a problem. Real is not accepted well by most, but it's a huge city and the probability of finding someone more interesting (-ed) has to be good.
Mmm, that's a toughie... god, relationships are in general... but we all still dive in! Wow, I sound cynical... which if hilarious because I'm giddily in a new relationship, lol!! I wish I had some golden nugget of wisdom for you... other than don't lose the smart, funny, spunky New Yorker!! I love me some New Yorker sass!! :) And maybe L.A. needs a big dose of NYC, baby...
xoxo J
I think it's because you were new to town and just needed someone to kind of be a wing person. Doing anything ALONE can be torture sometimes. Another body - just helps. Good thing you noticed now, cause maybe he's not the one.
Though.... asking TOO many questions in the beginning can actually spoil the fun of meeting new people????!!! maybe that's it??
nope..... that's not it. Find someone who wants to know EVERYTHING about YOU!
This guy sounds like a real winner
guys like that for me i stay far away from ...... PS i am sure your one great New York City girl..
GOOD LUCK
It doesn't sound like he's all that into you. A long time ago I dated a guy like that, Potential Guy. We had some great dates, we spent a lot of time together. We even did the dirty deed. But he'd go a week without calling or texting. When we hung out it was light hearted, but no real deep questions about me or what makes me tick. I would ask him, he'd answer, but that'd be that. I finally got fed up and gave him the boot.
Btw, I gave you an award on my blog!
Aw, thanks lady. I'll have to go check it out :)
It sounds like neither one of you is very into the other. You admitted that you don't know anything about him, so either he's only skin deep and there's not much to him, or you haven't found out more about him because you just don't care about knowing more about him.
Oh well, there are plenty of more interesting guys in LA.
Hi! I'm visiting over from Date Girl's blog. I get what you mean about the jaded New Yorker complex where you've got your guard up the whole time because you don't know what weirdo is making googly eyes at you from across the bar.
Kudos to you for getting out there (and going all the way to LA!!) and just giving it a shot. If he's not that into you, oh well. Take it for what it is and keep your eyes peeled for the guy who'll want to know all about you.
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Aw, thanks Ambar! I'll check it out
it gets worse when u start to expect from people.
Good amount of communication will surely let you know
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